The Out-of-Control Teen

When I was going through the very difficult years of having an out-of-control teen, I was beside myself. I was frantic with worry, fear and unhappiness. I was often paralyzed from making decisions on what actions to take.

I am convinced that things started to turn around – and my relationship with my son began being repaired – when I realized that the way I parented was based on guilt. I constantly tried to guilt my son into behaving better.

When this finally got through to me, I started shutting my mouth on my habitual responses. I started treating him the way I would treat everyone else. And slowly but surely our relationship shifted. Today, I enjoy being around him again and I am so grateful for a growing closeness (hopefully he feels the same).

I believe that if I had spotted my limiting beliefs around parenting earlier, our experience with our teenager would have been shorter, less intense and much less expensive.

I want to help other moms who are going through the same experience. I can’t guarantee any change in your teenager, but I can help you find more calm and peace in the midst of the chaos. I can help you release your own limiting beliefs and emotional charges that keep you stuck in patterns that don’t serve you. By changing your story, you will have more confidence and clarity on how to help your teen.

To this end, my new book, Surviving the High School Years with Your Sanity Intact: A Guide for Moms with Out-of-Control Teens is now available for pre-order on Amazon. It will be published officially on April 11. In the meantime, if you would like to discuss the situation with your difficult teen, email me at lisa@tappingintoyourtrueself.com.

Tapping Into Truth

At lunch earlier this week, my friend suggested – based on her experience – that I be truthful about my business actions. When I said I would remember to be honest, she reminded me to be “truthful.”

When I thought about it, there is a difference. If I was asked if I completed actions that I needed to do to move my business forward, honesty would be saying, “I intend to do them; they are on my list. But I did do X, Y, and Z.”

If I was truthful, the answer is simple: “No, I did not.” There’s no weaseling out in truthfulness. There’s no getting around what you know is true.

As parents, it’s helpful if we are truthful with ourselves about our children and our parenting. We should be especially truthful about who our children are, not who we want them to be, nor who they should be according to society or how we grew up, or who they will be in the future.

Just them, right now.

If you see your children for who they are now, you will better be able to see when they need help (they don’t act out because they are bad kids). You will create less stress in your family. And you can shift your experience as a parent to being more loving and less frustrating.

Tapping is an excellent way to identify where your beliefs and expectations don’t match your reality. It’s also excellent at taking away the charge you may feel about letting go of those expectations and any regret, resentment, anger or fear you may have around it.

And it’s never too late. Your child can be 30 and learning to see them for who they are can help create a better, closer relationship than you’ve ever had before.

If you are a mom (with children of any age), please join our MeetUp Group: https://www.meetup.com/Moms-Tapping-Group/.

I offer personal EFT and Matrix Reimprinting sessions in person, by phone or on Zoom. To schedule, send an email to lisa@tappingintoyourtrueself.com.

Tapping is for Kids Too

My primary focus in this blog will  be about the benefits of tapping for moms. But tapping is excellent for kids too!

Just think of the difference it can make in a child’s life to remove the charge around an upsetting event right after it happens. There’s no need to carry the pain with them for years and years.

And tapping can help them with stress and anxiety — such as on test day or when they’re asking someone on a date or a beloved pet passes away.

Tapping can work its magic quickly with children. They don’t have years of other experiences reinforcing the negative emotions or beliefs they may have formed. They are not as invested as adults can be about holding because it feels normal or because they get something out of keeping their problem.

Tapping can also help them feel in control of their emotions and their decisions, helping them stay grounded within themselves as they navigate the tricky waters of growing up.

The Tapping Solution has a page with many videos on tapping with kids.

And if your child is willing to try it, you can schedule a tapping session with me either in person or on Zoom.

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